In a few weeks, my daughter will turn one. She is the only granddaughter for both my parents and my inlaws (as my son is the only grandson) and consequently very blessed with love but also with… stuff. There will be no lack of gifts and clothes and things showered upon her for her birthday from both sets of very doting grandparents who by virtue of living a considerable distance away from us, only see her once or twice a year.
The grandparents have been demanding lists of presents we would like for her. Well – she does not lack for toys through the fact that she has all of my son’s outgrown toys as her own (we are a communal toy household) and she has plenty of clothing through the generosity of my dear friends with older daughters of their own (thanks especially B, E, S, and K!). I have been hard pressed to come up with much to ask for from them for her (and no, college fund deposits are not an option in this case, they want *stuff* to hold in their hands and watch her open).
So that leads me to my own dilemma. There is nothing I can think of to get for her for her birthday on my own. I do have money in the budget for her (small) party and some presents… but I am thinking of simply having a little cake and making an extra deposit in her college fund. She’ll have lots to open from the grandparents, after all, and I don’t want to buy her presents just to buy her presents, if you understand what I mean. I am trying to reduce “stuff” not accumulate even more of it for no reason except to say I bought something for her birthday.
But it makes me feel… cheap. Not frugal… cheap. Maybe I just have too much consumer ingrained in me.
What to do… what to do. She’s at an age that she truly will not know the difference. In fact, I was considering doing something similar for both kids for Christmas. Since we will be visiting the grandparents and they both will receive more presents than we can comfortably shove in my car…. just a small extra college fund deposit and call it a day.
Why does that make me feel so cheap? Bah.